The grooms speech is one of the most intimidating wedding speeches, outside of the wedding vows themselves, you will give on this special day. At least this is the way I felt when looking back at my wedding day. Not being the best writer in the world, finding grooms speech ideas was my first mission when I sat down to write a draft of this important wedding speech.

There were plenty of grooms speech resources available that included ideas for the speech and examples to follow or copy. They really helped me get my head straight about what I wanted to say and exactly how to structure the speech.

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What I also discovered in my search was some general DO’s and Don’ts when it came to giving the wedding grooms speech, and any other for that matter. They are:

Remember who your target audience is — the wedding guests. Yes, you are speaking to all of the guests, not just a chosen few.

Stay away from inside jokes — This is where you can lose your audience and have them scratching their heads over the meaning of the story.

Avoid off-color remarks at all times — colorful language may be excepted in today’s culture, but it has no place at the wedding ceremonies and can often offend guests and leave a bad memory of the event.

View your jokes through your audience’s ears — What may seem like a harmless joke to you may be quite offensive to other segments of your audience, like the elderly who are present at the wedding. The older set tend to have more stringent thoughts of what is acceptable language. If in doubt, test it out on some of your friends and relatives.

Try to avoid causing problems and conflicts with your stories — you don’t want to create a conflict between your wedding guests because of what you thought was a “harmless” story you told in your wedding speech or toast. It really is important to write your grooms wedding speech focused on the best interest of the audience.

But most importantly, remember your audience first when preparing your grooms speech and you will create a memorable moment for all to appreciate.

Note: I found this video with some great tips on giving wedding speeches and thought that it might also help you with your very important grooms speech: